Behavioral Pattern Assessment

Is it actually
toxic — or are
you too sensitive?

20 behavioral questions. 7 specific pattern detectors. An objective score that names what you've been experiencing — and tells you what to do about it.

Does any of this sound familiar?
"I leave arguments confused about what actually happened."
"I've been told I'm overreacting so many times I've started believing it."
"I apologise first in every conflict — even when I know I didn't start it."
"Something feels wrong, but I can't get a clear answer from anyone."
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7Patterns detected
20Behavioral questions
60Max score
$0To see your result
What this tool detects

Not "toxic vibes."
Named patterns.

Each of the 7 patterns has a specific behavioral signature and a documented psychological mechanism. This isn't a feelings quiz. It's a behavioral scan.

Pattern 01
Gaslighting
Memory denial + reality rewriting
Pattern 02
Manipulation
Guilt-shifting + weaponised trust
Pattern 03
Intermittent Reinforcement
Hot/cold cycles + dependency
Pattern 04
Contempt
Persistent dismissal + disrespect
Pattern 05
Isolation
Support network erosion
Pattern 06
Coercive Control
Monitoring + unilateral decisions
Pattern 07
Self-Erosion
Cumulative loss of confidence and identity
Why this tool exists

You already know
something isn't right.

You're not here because everything is fine. You're here because something keeps nagging at you — and you've been told, enough times, that the problem is you.

You're not overreacting. But you need an objective answer — not a friend's opinion or a vague article. You need a score, a pattern name, and a verdict. That's what this tool gives you.

How it works

Free scan. Real result.
Clear next steps.

01
Take the free 20-question scan
Answer honestly. Each question maps to one of the 7 behavioral patterns. Takes 4 minutes.
02
See your score and detected patterns
Your score out of 60. Which patterns were detected. Your verdict: Low Concern / Concerning / Toxic / Severe. Free — no payment required.
03
Get the full report — $17
Deep explanation of every detected pattern. 80 word-for-word boundary scripts. The exit vs. repair decision framework. 30-day tracking template.
04
Know what to do — finally
Not "communicate better." The specific scripts and tools for your specific detected patterns.
What's in the $17 full report

Specific. Actionable.
No filler.

01
Deep pattern explanations
What each detected pattern is, why it works psychologically, and what it's costing you
02
80 boundary scripts
Word-for-word responses to specific toxic behaviors — organised by pattern type
03
Exit vs. repair framework
12 scored questions that produce a recommendation — not a feeling
04
30-day pattern tracker
Daily log to monitor whether patterns continue, intensify, or change
05
Compatibility checklist
40 questions to use in the next relationship before emotional investment locks in
06
Question-specific callouts
Each detected pattern shows exactly which of your answers triggered it — not a generic template
What people say after taking it

Not "great quiz."
Real reactions.

Score: 42/60 · Toxic
I've been told I'm too sensitive for three years. This gave me a score of 42 and named 5 specific patterns — including gaslighting, which I couldn't say out loud before. I cried. Then I bought the full report.
— Reader, bought the report after free scan
Score: 11/60 · Low Concern
Mine came back low concern — which I actually needed to hear. I've been in a toxic relationship before and I kept waiting for this one to go wrong too. The score gave me permission to trust it.
— Reader, used the scan on a new relationship
Score: 34/60 · Concerning
I sent the intermittent reinforcement section to my therapist. She said "yes, that's exactly the pattern." Having a name for it changed something. The boundary scripts are what I use now.
— Reader, shared result with therapist

Names withheld. Replace with verified testimonials after first 20 buyers.

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Common questions
Is the free scan actually free? No credit card? +
Yes. Completely free. No credit card, no trial, no email required to take the quiz or see your score and detected patterns. The email gate is optional — skip it and you still see your full result.
Is this clinically validated? +
This tool is built on behavioral patterns documented in relationship psychology research — including coercive control research, Gottman's contempt findings, and intermittent reinforcement theory. It is not a clinical diagnostic instrument and does not replace professional support. If your situation involves safety concerns, please reach out to a qualified professional.
What's actually in the $17 report? +
Deep explanations of every pattern detected in your scan. 80 word-for-word boundary scripts organised by toxic behavior type. The exit vs. repair decision framework (12 questions, scored verdict). A 30-day pattern tracking template. A 40-question compatibility checklist for future relationships. Instant Notion workspace + PDF. No subscription.
Can I use this for a past relationship? +
Yes. Many people use it while still processing a relationship that recently ended. The pattern names give language to experiences that can otherwise feel impossible to explain — including to yourself.
What if my score comes back low? +
A low score (0–12) is a real and valid result. Not all relationships are toxic, and the tool is calibrated to distinguish between normal relationship friction and genuinely harmful patterns. A low score with some detected behaviors still shows you the names and what to watch for going forward.
Refund policy? +
30 days, no questions. Email the address on your Gumroad receipt. We'd rather you trust the purchase than hesitate because of the price.